The Penis – a Tool of Love or a Weapon of War?
It constantly amazes me how “struggle” and “battle” have been written into the patriarchal narrative. I sit in my garden and observe the level of harmony, collaboration and symbiosis there is all around me.
Scientists are catching up and are beginning to confirm what indigenous cultures – people who live on, and with, the land – have always told us and what whores always knew – the natural world is perfect, ancient, mysterious and magical.
There is much harmony for us to observe and learn from. We would do better to observe and learn, rather than seek to enforce our will over it.
But power over is an intrinsic part of patriarchy.
Elite power over everyone else.
Male power over women.
White power over non-whites.
Human power over the natural world.
Sitting on top of this pyramid of power, his ever present, judgemental eye watching over us, is the patriarchal God.
From the beginning he was a vengeful, stern, and strict parental figure. His “love” has always been conditional on our behaviour, his judgement of women has always been harsher than his judgement of men (just ask Eve).
But he was not the first deity to be worshipped and he knew it.
The Old Testament is a series of directives from God via his Levite priests to destroy the peoples, cultures and religions that came before him.
In the world before God, women had far more status and power. It was through women that communities worshipped Goddess. Thus, to destroy the peoples, cultures and religions of pre-God communities you needed to destroy the power of women.
To do this God committed what this whore considers to be the greatest crime against humanity, he turned the penis from a tool of love, into a weapon of war.
In the God approved model of sex, as first practiced by Adam, men were instructed that the correct and only appropriate way to have sex is in the man-on-top “missionary” position.
This position gives men enough pleasure to come, but rarely gives women much, if any, pleasure. Adam’s first wife, Lilith, left him rather than suffer any more sex that didn’t include her pleasure.
She was right to leave him, devoid of pleasure, sex becomes a violation of a woman’s sacred space. Devoid of pleasure, penetration is experienced by the body (and I emphasise by the body i.e. the vagina) not much differently to rape.
But God went further, hell hath no fury like a patriarchal deity after complete ownership and control of ALL the land and ALL the energy from ALL the peoples living on the planet. “Raping” women nightly in miserable monogamous marriages (the kind detested by Goddess) wasn’t enough.
Rape was to be used as an act of war against the women of every community that did not surrender and submit to the new male God.
Recorded in page after page of frankly deranged writing in the Old Testament rape, in the cause of the new religion, was deemed a “good” thing which “God fearing” men did to prove their devotion and commitment to their new God.
If you think raping women was only part of the initial establishment of patriarchy, you’d be wrong. Rape using a penis or other device including, for example, hot metal rods (during the witch trials) has been used for thousands of years to punish, suppress and oppress women for being women.
Rape is as prevalent today as it ever was. Young women headed off to university are now advised on ways to avoid being raped by their male class mates as a routine part of their orientation days.
The most commonly used weapon of war in rape? Yes, you’ve guessed it, the penis. Specifically, an erect penis. Patriarchy succeeded in turning a tool of love into a weapon of war, one which has done immense harm to the collective feminine across centuries creating our, not surprising, love-hate-fear relationship with erections.
Women giggle at, sneer at, avoid looking at, fear, judge and even shame what was once unanimously seen by men and women as a “Shaft of Light”. The lingam (Sanskrit for shaft of light) or penis, has always had the potential to be a giver of profound bliss and joy, a means by which the vagina is lit up – activating and connecting the woman to deep stores of energy within her body by which she transcends the everyday, material reality to spend time dancing in the heavens.
It’s the same body part and yet with different information, and different intent, it can be used either to activate or to kill a woman’s power.
Just as a kitchen knife can be used to create delicious nourishing food or to inflict deep wounds and even death in another person’s body. It is not the knife, or the penis, that is dangerous. It is what the person wielding both knife and penis intends to do with them.
Devastatingly, boys raised in Judeo/Christian “civilisation” have been raised with patriarchal programming which means even when a man does not consciously intend to do harm with his penis, because of his ignorance, the patriarchal model of sex, exploitative porn and his own unacknowledged trauma (for example infant circumcision) he unwittingly shames, shuts down or violates a woman’s sexuality, and sadly, rape is a far, far more common experience for women than most men are willingly to acknowledge or admit.
And it doesn’t have to be this way!
This whore knows that when a man is reconnected to the divine love that he can channel through his lingam he is reconnected to the divine masculine power of giving. This is the miracle (i.e. a change in perception that changes everything) that we are ready for.
Because powerful, sovereign people are difficult to control, patriarchy purposefully disconnected men from their greatest power. The power of a man to give a woman deep, deep pleasure and to journey with her, and through her, to magical realms, lifting both of them out of, and beyond, their mundane, material existence is literally infinite.
The penis was not designed to harm women, it was designed, rather marvellously, to heal and love women.
From the base of the shaft all the way up to the tip of the glans are reflexology points that when gently pressured send healing energy to different parts of the man’s body. Not just any energy – sexual energy – the most potent, powerful, creatrix energy on the planet!
Rather perfectly our bodies are designed in harmony with each other: the vagina has corresponding points.
When a penis enters a pulsating, vibrating, alive vagina the penis activates her points passing energy from him to her and because she is throbbing with pre-orgasmic and orgasmic pleasure the supple walls of her vagina massage the length of his penis activating his points, sending her loving and healing energy into his body.
It’s magical and it’s perfect.
But, obviously denied to all humans, male and female, in the pleasure-free model of sexuality so beloved by patriarchy.
A fearful, shut down or resentful vagina will not be pulsating with pleasure. You may be able to push into her and pump until you empty your ball bag, but you have missed the entire magical point of sexual connection. The time spent in coitus, penis in vagina, is a sacred time of deep healing, deep connection and the opportunity to transcend the mortal realm.
Man-fearing feminists are right to reject a model of sex that causes harm to our bodies. They are right to erect boundaries and firmly voice their NO.
But I believe they are deeply misguided to reject men along with a harmful model of sex.
It is not men’s fault that they have been encultured into a brutal model of sexuality that looks and feels like rape for far too much of the time. It’s what we have all grown up with and what we are convinced is “normal”.
Feminists need our sexual power and pleasure as much as any other human on the planet. Without it we are little more than robots serving The Machine. A more empowered feminist movement reclaims sexual pleasure for women and guides men into the world of joyful bliss, deep healing and connection that awaits us all when we just shift our perception.
This, my loves, is the work of whores. The world desperately needs the miracle of whores working in every community teaching men and women the ancient, beautiful, deeply connected art of sexual pleasure. This ancient wisdom that flows through our bodies is the greatest hope humanity has of finding its way back to harmony and love.
I’ll finish with my favourite quote ever, it’s from the beautiful John Lennon:
“We live in a world where we have to hide to make love
While violence is practised in broad daylight.”
And I’ll invite you to ponder over what the world could be like if we no longer had to hide to make love.
Recommended further reading :
“When God was a Woman” by Merlin Stone
“Vagina” by Naomi Wolf
“Lingam Massage: Awakening Male Sexual Energy” by Michaela Riedl
Photo by Danilo Rios on Unsplash
